How do YOU cope?
Coping with a tough situation doesn’t mean having the challenge go from tough to easy, it means finding ways to deal with the toughness so that you can make it through.
There are healthy ways to cope, and unhealthy ways to cope.
Healthy ways: calling a supportive person on the phone, going for a walk, watching something that makes you laugh, meditating using an app (like Calm), having a cup of hot tea, singing along to great music, or reading a book. Do you feel better after you do one of these things? Or something else? What is it? Start of list of things that work for you and do at least one of them every day.
Unhealthy ways of coping: excessive use of alcohol, or other substances, overeating, risk-taking, isolating yourself from others, burying yourself in a distracting activity for hours each day. Here we mean doing unhealthy things that make you feel better in the moment but also “hurt” you somehow. Are you coping in a way that isn’t leading you towards long term health? Can you begin to substitute some healthier ways of dealing with stress, anxiety, and “tough things” for the unhealthy coping tools you are using?
I encourage you to start noticing the healthy tools that really work for you and begin to incorporate them into your life! Why? Because being a parent is hard, and you need healthy ways to deal with stress, exhaustion and overwhelm.
Warmly, Jenny Schermerhorn, Licensed Professional Counselor. Specializing in the Journey and Transition to Motherhood.
This article is not meant to take the place of a relationship with a trained mental health therapist, or a medical professional. It is not meant to provide diagnosis of a mental health disorder. If you are experiencing a physical or mental health emergency, please dial 9-1-1